My life with Kap is a constant battle with cheapness -but I say this was humor & love ha. I just oftentimes stop & wonder why, and muni-muni what happened along the way, because I was privy to his life as a single. Hindi naman sya pinagdamutan ng magulang nya growing up. He only had to ask & his parents gave him his heart’s desires whenever finances would permit. Ganun naman tayong mga magulang diba? Our kids’ happiness is our happiness.
Now that we’re sorta upgrading our life, I foresee plenty of unpleasantries & heated discussions ahead. Which is why most of the time, in order to keep the peace because the kids don’t like it when we argue, I just relent & hand over the reins to him. But then I seethe silently & it builds up. I’m only human. Tao lang naman ako na may puso at damdamin! :P
Mahilig si Kap sa luma. And not the antique kind of old, mind you. Buti pa nga sana ang antique kasi may value. I’m saying the crappy kind of old. Yung mga pang-junk shop kind of old.
Minsan hindi talaga maiwasang sumama ang loob ko. Yun bang, I gave you a nice family, why can’t you give me a nice life naman? One that I deserve? One that I know we can afford? Talagang balde-baldeng silent cry yan. He would often tell me “eh yan lang ang kaya kong ibigay sayo. Pasensya ka na mahirap ang napangasawa mo“. But I know otherwise, which makes the hurt a little but more painful. Cheapskate lang talaga sya, lol. Period. But I shut up for the sake of peace. Aanuhin ko nga naman ang maganda at bagong bagay kung nagkakagulo naman kami sa bahay. Tama?
For our son’s 18th bday I so wanted to get him a new car. Hindi pumayag si Kap. #KontraBida Wag daw bago, siya daw ang bibili. Ang binigay nya lumang kakarag-karag. Eto namang anak kong mokong, tuwang-tuwa. My heart bled because I wanted his first car to be memorable naman sana. He’s been so good, keeping his grades up, not doing bad things young boys do now. (Well not that I know of!) So I wanted to reward him with a nice car. And hindi naman whim yan, naghintay rin naman ako. This is for our son’s 18th birthday, monumental. I’m not talking about millions worth na sports car. I’m talking about a regular brand new car that I can be assured won’t stop in the middle of the road lalo na sa gabi at maliblib na lugar!
I also wanted to buy a new van for the family sana to replace our 10-year old car coz the kids are all big now -with loooong legs. We can’t fit comfortably in an SUV anymore. Bawal daw ang bago. May nabili na daw sya na worth 20k. My gosh! Baka naman ma-tetano ako! Gumugulong pa ba yaaan???
He’s always like that. He has to be the cheapskate. Kakain sa labas kelangan somewhere cheap. Bibili ng gamit kelangan sa sale. Magta-travel kelangan cheapest flight na, cheapest accommodation pa tapos mega limited ang budget. Oh my gulay!
I feel that I deserve more. Its not like we can’t afford it -not to be mayabang. But I think he is taming me. He married a princess, and now he is training me to be a regular jane. He is forever testing my patience. It’s as if he doesn’t approve of the way I was brought up & he doesn’t want the kids to have the same sense of entitlement that I have. Maybe that’s why.
Ok fine. You win. Hi, I’m Jane. And I’m
screwed a Shrew! :P