My Kids Others The GOppets

I Gotchu Fam! – Ate

Just sharing with you how my kids, especially Ate, always protects & defends me. She wrote this yesterday in reply to a recent comment questioning sponsored posts & full disclosure. First of all, and not to come off antagonistic I sure you, this is a personal blog. I don’t get paid to share my thoughts & my feelings. I am therefore not obligated to anyone to explain myself & defend topics I write about.

I oftentimes get emails & private messages from bloggers & aspiring bloggers -or even ordinary readers, asking how I get sponsors as they too want “in” and “freebies”, and how lucky I am to “get to eat for free”. Now that’s just crass, plain & simple. Please know that blogging is not as easy as you may think. One needs to have the dedication, passion, and heart -as what my daughter describes below. Good grammar helps a lot too, if you know what I mean. ;P

It takes a lot of hard work to even be relevant & interesting. Whatever I’m reaping now, it’s because of the effort I’ve put into blogging through the years. This isn’t something that happened overnight. Almost 6 years of blogging guys. It took a while before I got noticed & amassed readers who not only read, but stayed, and ultimately became friends -not just with me but with Kap & the kids as well.

Sponsors don’t just pick you out of the blue. A blogger must have a decent amount of followers, write relevantly, and be a viable candidate in the return of their investment. Nothing in life is free, if I get something, I make sure that I also give something back – 200% pa nga & I’d like to believe that it shows.

Many times I just take the questions & comments with a grain of salt, but I am so blessed to know that my kids always have my back. At the end of the day, what they think of me is what’s important.

Thank you Ate. I don’t deserve you, but boy am I so blessed to call you mine! :-*


Ate always tells us.. “I GOTCHU, FAM!” Thank you for that my sweetheart! :-*

“I would just like to remind mommy’s readers that over the years, mommy has put her heart and soul into every single blog post and eventually made a name for herself. On top of that, she’s so easy to love. Many of my friends love her even more than they love me. She’s met a multitude of people in the blogging industry and many have fallen in love with her. When people gift her things, they do it out of love for her, not merely for promotion. And mommy blogs out of love for her kids and readers, not merely for profit. 

Yes, I too remember that phase of nonstop sponsored posts that so many of you disliked. I disliked that change I saw in mommy too. But she promised she’d revert to the “old Jane,” as many of you like to call it, and she did. For those that still doubt her, well, you can gtfo. We don’t owe you an explanation. We don’t owe you anything. But one of you really pissed me off on a beautiful Sunday morning so I’m gonna bitch it out of my system. 

You guys only see a fraction of our life on social media. You don’t see what I see on a daily basis. You don’t see the amount of back breaking time and effort mommy puts into writing. You don’t see the lack of sleep and the eye bags in the morning. You don’t hear the complains of back pains from slouching over her laptop all night. She could easily go to bed but she finishes each blog post with a self-set deadline because of how obligated she feels to her readers. Every single picture is edited to become brighter and more colorful like mommy’s personality. Then every single picture is cropped, resized, saved, filed and renamed meticulously. The pictures then get uploaded and inserted ONE BY ONE. And if you’ve been around for a long time, you know how picture heavy mommy’s blogs tend to be. 

Do you honestly think even the most famous of bloggers never have sponsored posts? Just look at my favorite fashion blogger, Chiara Ferragni. Her outfits are almost always gifted to her from head to toe by the designer friends she’s made. But does that mean she doesn’t like the clothes she wears? No. Does that mean she only ever promotes an item of clothing when she is paid to do so? No. She has a passion for fashion and wakes up every morning excited to put together an outfit. In her posts, she doesn’t try to sell the clothes she’s gifted. She posts about them because she genuinely likes what she’s got on. She doesn’t care if people buy the same things or not, but she states where what she wears are from for those that do. 

I’d like to acknowledge the fact that when you gain popularity or become any kind of “public figure,” people feel like you become their property. They develop an image of you in their head and if you’re not what they expect, they try to control you and change you into who they want you to be. Those are the worst. I’d also like to acknowledge that there are people who become so engrossed in reading about our life that they feel they know us personally. Many times those are the people that become are our friends in real life. But sometimes, there are those who feel so close to mommy that they think they can say anything they want to her, especially harsh critiques.  

I’d like to emphasize that mommy is a personal blogger, not a professional one. Blogging is not her main source of income. We have been so blessed with multiple businesses and properties that mommy can stop just as easily as she started. She used to blog only for her kids so that we’d one day have this beautiful diary to look at and show our own kids. But today, many of you have become part of our family so now she blogs for you too. 

Mommy reads through comments across all her social media platforms, and these either make or break her day. Even now that I’m busy in med school, I make sure to still read through the comments. I might not be able to read them on a daily basis but I always find the time to backread and go through each one. I might not always be home but I am in contact with mommy 24/7 via cellphone. So yes, I am updated and I know what goes on. I appreciate those of you who have nothing but praise and love for mommy. I thank you from the bottom of my heart. You guys are a huge reason for her to keep going. I would also like to recognize many of you who have become part of our family despite never meeting us in person. We appreciate you and we hope to see you soon. To those whom we have already met, thank you for sticking around. We love you. Lastly, to her silent readers, we know you’re there and we appreciate you just the same. 

In closing, I ask that you approach the comments section with KINDNESS, HUMILITY, and RESPECT. It’s okay to REQUEST but do not DEMAND. This is my MOTHER we are talking about after all. Forgive me if I become protective but I’m 100% sure I have the right to do so. Remember, I’m a growling tiger who’s developed the wings of an eagle. Don’t piss this ferocious beast off.”


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  • Reply Med

    Very well said, Jana!!! [*clap clap clap with standing ovation pa*]

    September 12, 2016 at 8:28 am
    • Reply Jane Go

      As you can see meding, she’s come a long way from being shy & timid hahaha. Yeeeey for empowerment. ;))

      September 12, 2016 at 9:10 am
  • Reply Mom South of Manila

    This is for Jana.

    As a mom and a daughter, let me just say: You go girl! Don’t ever lose that love and fierceness.

    September 12, 2016 at 8:29 am
    • Reply Jane Go

      Thank you! :-* Sarap talaga to have daughters. Good mawnin’!

      September 12, 2016 at 9:09 am
  • Reply Acejmnz

    Love love from your silent readers!

    September 12, 2016 at 8:59 am
    • Reply Jane Go

      Thank you for the love Ace & Katie! <3 I feel it all over Instagram, mwah! :-*

      September 12, 2016 at 9:08 am
  • Reply Letlet

    I love you Ms. jane and your family, jts always easy to say to ignore the negativity but I know its easier said than done. There are times na di na talaga kaya i-ignore and be affected. I love Jana’s message, it touched my heart and felt all the love.

    September 12, 2016 at 9:38 am
    • Reply Jane Go

      Thank you Let. Jana is a better version of me haha. Matamis din na may anghang. ;))

      September 12, 2016 at 11:15 am
  • Reply Cherryll

    Team Goppets all the way!!! ❤️

    September 12, 2016 at 10:05 am
    • Reply Jane Go

      Yahooooo!! <3 Thank you Che (with double R & double L). Mwah! :-*

      September 12, 2016 at 11:14 am
  • Reply ANNA

    Hi Ms. Jane, I MISS COMMENTING HERE! But I always follow your blog and social media posts. And I loved you from Day 1, as in there was a time na I was back reading everything. My officemates asked me why I follow you since you’re not my age group, but it was the writing that got me. Sobrang passionate and full of love. Never change! We love you! :)

    September 12, 2016 at 11:02 am
    • Reply Jane Go

      So appreciate the love, Anna. You amke my heart so full & happy. This is my reward. :-*

      September 12, 2016 at 11:13 am
  • Reply rei duhan

    Hi Ms. Jane,

    Good morning Monday!

    Don’t mind them na lang po, andito lang kaming mga million readers for you. I think naiinggit lang sya. Miss you po!!

    Go Jana! kung sino man sya, hindi sya happy sa life nya.


    September 12, 2016 at 11:03 am
    • Reply Jane Go

      Thank you for being a friend through the years Rei. I know you’re always there, silent or not, and I appreciate you & Jo so much! <3

      September 12, 2016 at 11:12 am
  • Reply Eula Mendoza

    I missed commenting in your blog posts kasi naman may pinagdaanan ako na nadepress ako. My grandma passed away last month kaya di pa ako makamove on. Pero itong pagtatanggol ni Ate ang di ko palalampasin! She must really love you. I saw the comment one sentence lang pero ang sagot ni Jana ang haba! Pano pa kaya kung talagang inaway ka no? You deserve a daughter like her kasi naman super bait, caring, and loving mo. Sa blog posts and instagram pa nga lang dama na. :)

    September 12, 2016 at 11:57 am
    • Reply Jane Go

      Oh no! I’m so very sorry for the passing of your lola. I know it’s easy to say that they are in a better place now, but reality is we will miss them every second of every day. That’s why we have to make every moment count while on earth. Our deepest sympathies Eula, to you & your family. Sending you our love! :-*

      September 12, 2016 at 1:19 pm
      • Reply Eula Mendoza

        Thank you. Kaya sad ako kahapon kasi grandparents day. :(

        September 12, 2016 at 2:28 pm
  • Reply Rose

    You’re a lucky mom indeed to have a daughter like Jana. Honestly, if I happen to live in Manila and I spot your family at the mall… kahit siguro nakakahiya I will introduce myself kasi once in a lifetime chance na yun na ma-meet ang GOppets. Don’t mind the trolls. Naiinggit lang yun because you’ve been blessed as a blogger and a mom.

    September 12, 2016 at 1:06 pm
    • Reply Jane Go

      You are so sweet Rose. It would be our honor to meet you, and it would make us so so happy! :-*

      September 12, 2016 at 1:17 pm
  • Reply Erika

    Clap Clap Clap! Ate is the best! Wala na ko maisip na idescribe sa kanya! Whatever you post, I will still read it. Part ka ng day ko kahit saang part ako ng mundo lagi ko binabasa blog mo. I’m always here for you and you know I love you always!

    September 12, 2016 at 5:09 pm
    • Reply Jane Go

      Awwww!! Thank you. And we love you back, Erika! SUPER!! Mwah! :-*

      September 12, 2016 at 8:35 pm
  • Reply She Oabel

    Very well said gurl!

    September 12, 2016 at 7:44 pm
    • Reply Jane Go

      In behalf of my Jana, thank you She! :-*

      September 12, 2016 at 8:34 pm
  • Reply Eileen

    People should realize that when you follow a blog you only get a glimpse of that person’s life and that is a privilege that readers should not abuse. As readers we don’t have the right to disrespect the bloggers we follow. Constructive feedback is fine, it must never be hateful, that is common human decency. Jane you have such a loving daughter, you have raised her well.

    September 12, 2016 at 8:22 pm
    • Reply Jane Go

      Thank you for understanding, Eileen. So far I’ve been lucky with my readers naman. Karamihan kind-hearted & loving. I’m blessed. :-* And yes, Ate is trul my guardian angel.

      September 12, 2016 at 8:34 pm
  • Reply Photo Cache

    Well said Jana!

    I am a follower of this blog for a long time now, started when Jane talked about the kids and the ganaps they do with neighbors and tennis buddies. I love the old Jane, but I love the new Jane (is there such a thing?) as well. Nothing stays the same people! People change, blog contents change but that doesn’t mean it’s bad change.

    I for one enjoy Jane’s writing, and I admire the fact that she can say “this food sucks” in the most loving way. You do know how to choose the right words Jane.

    Shake it off and keep on going. Keep up the good work. I enjoy reading all about your adventures.

    September 13, 2016 at 2:41 am
    • Reply Jane Go

      I always feel your love, Maria! <3 Thank you so much for always sticking around. I hope to meet you in person one day. I feel like we're such ols penpals haha. Love you! :-*

      September 13, 2016 at 8:28 am
  • Reply Donna

    I have been an avid reader of your blog for almost 4 years now and I still think it’s one of the most personal and heartwarming blogs to read. Some people are just born to complain and nothing can satisfy them so just delete their comments because you have such a blessed life Ms.Jane. I am actually very impressed at how you updated your blog during your EU holiday. For someone who is based in EU and who has travelled to some of the places you’ve been to, I know how physically exhausting it is to move around each city with luggage and all yet you’ve managed to update your blog diligently. Keep the fire and spunk Ms.Jane and more power to your blog and the whole fam.

    September 13, 2016 at 3:32 am
    • Reply Jane Go

      You are so kind Donna. Thank you so much for your uplifting words, I really do try my best to update my readers because I feel like I am talking to friends. :) Super appreciate you! :-*

      September 13, 2016 at 8:26 am
  • Reply jo

    Hay nabasa ko din! haha! actually yung comment na yun nalito din ako kasi kung meron mang sponsored, di ko ramdam…tsaka yun nga mas interesado ako talaga sa mga kulitan nyong mag iina! haha! :)

    September 13, 2016 at 7:48 am
    • Reply Jane Go

      Love you Jo! We must have another date with Rei. Pls let me knkw pag malapit na birthday mo I will schedule an afternoon tea for us! :-*

      September 13, 2016 at 8:30 am
  • Reply jo

    i remember Ms Jane, nung mineet mo kami…tapos sobrang hiya ayaw namin pero nung gusto na namin, sige go ka! At nakita ko napaka bait ng mga anak mo…so polite…nakipag meet ka with us just like that…eh sino ba naman kami diba… people are drawn to you because you are genuine. dedma sa nega!

    September 13, 2016 at 8:27 am
    • Reply Jane Go

      I will always be grateful to readers like you & Rei who take time to get to know us. Lam ko busy kayo sa work so it’s an honor for me that you make time for us. Alisin na yang hiya noh! Gow na tayo sa birthday mo haha! :-*

      September 13, 2016 at 8:33 am
  • Reply Candy

    Jana, yan tayo eh.. fierce with a heart! What we would do to defend our family, esp. our mom.

    Mommy Jane, how come for someone who reads through the comment section, I missed that insensitive comment. And knowing your family (kahit sa blog lang), you don’t even need this blog to get any of the material things or “free” food adeventures but just like Jana said, i think it’s a testament of how people love you. Love just overflows because of your goodness and the sunshine you bring, one just can’t help but to shower you the love in whatever form it is.

    Keep shining, Mommy Jane! You are loved!

    September 13, 2016 at 9:15 am
    • Reply Jane Go

      Thank you for your support Candy. It’s readers like you who make me happy to share kasi feel ko kapamilya na tayo, not strangers. Thank you for the love & support! :-*

      September 13, 2016 at 10:00 am
  • Reply she oabel

    We love the GOppets! God bless you and family abundantly – She and Sian

    September 13, 2016 at 11:10 am
    • Reply Jane Go

      Feeling the love She & Sian. Thaaaank yoooou! :-*

      September 13, 2016 at 12:31 pm
  • Reply Ellen VIsta

    so touched with ate heheheh…. i miss you Jane :-)

    September 13, 2016 at 11:39 am
    • Reply Jane Go

      Miss you too Ellen! <3 Thought of you just the other night when I was in Marriott where we had our first (or was it second) date haha. Hope all is well with you mwah! :-*

      September 13, 2016 at 12:30 pm
  • Reply Lou

    Jane, I love reading your blog!!! I was one of those who stopped reading regularly when you went through the sponsored post phase – but only because the blog felt less personal then. But I am back to reading regularly and back to loving your blog.

    Thank you for sharing yourself with us strangers through your blog. I still look forward to the day when we see each other in Town – hopefully, I will be brave enough to introduce myself to you. And hopefully, I won’t make a fool of myself, or feel too familiar, lest I awaken the winged tiger in Ate!

    September 13, 2016 at 4:20 pm
    • Reply Jane Go

      Hahahahaha please nudge me when we cross paths! Jana is super nice to readers who love me. Nag-ga-growling tiger lang sya kapag mukhang nayuyurakan ako, lol. Thank you for the love, Lou! :-*

      September 13, 2016 at 6:22 pm
  • Reply Mary

    Kalma lang beh! Hahaha. Pero nicely said Jana. Miss Jane honestly, I go to your blog before I go to sleep. It’s one of my daily habits. Being in med school like your Jana is, and away from home, your blog posts are like a snapshot of what my family goes through (except for the vacations and the beautiful bags. Lol) but the day to day musings makes me less home sick and calm before I go to sleep.

    And its your blog Miss Jane. If you want to post sponsored posts, then go ahead. Di mo naman kasalanan na sumikat ka and businesses are taking interest. Wag mo na pansinin yung mga commenters na ng iintriga. Magkaroon ka pa ng wrinkles niyan! Maloka ang beauty mo. But in full sincerity, keep up the good work Miss Jane. You have many readers that appreciate what you do, and I am one of them.

    For Jana, good luck sa med school! Hihi. Enjoy and be thankful you have a family that supports you all the way especially a mom like Miss Jane that you know would always be there for you no matter what. There would be times na you would question yourself, why the hell you went through medschool and continuously doubt yourself through the journey, and that is when you need your family the most. Hehe. Kaya mo yan! Always believe in yourself and pray to God.

    Sorry ang haba ng reply Miss Jane. Hehe. Super affected din ako sa post. Parang mommy ko din ang tinitira kasi. Hahaha.

    September 14, 2016 at 3:21 am
    • Reply Jane Go

      Thank you for the show of support, at dahit jan, (bigyan ng jacket) you are officially a member of team Goppets hehe. Super appreciate your message to me & the Giblings, Mary Grace. And I feel you, mahirap mawalay sa pamilya, I’m sure grabe ka ma-homesick. Si jana nga 2 weeks lang nawalay sa akin, halos ikamatay ko na ahuhuhu. Be strong, konting kembot nalang yan anak, pasasaan ba’t matatapos ka na rin & you can be with the fam again.

      September 14, 2016 at 9:48 am
  • Reply A

    Sponsored or not, I am one of those who enjoy and love your blog :). Life is not perfect, someone will offend you whether you are doing good or not. Let them be and just charge it to experience :). Pasensya po for giving an unsolicited advice :).

    Just to share it with you, the reason maybe why I enjoy your blog because I grew up not close to my mom and until now we are still not in good terms. Seeing you as a good mother to your children, it gives me a positive feeling. Thank you and you are amazing and blessed with a happy family :) God bless!

    September 14, 2016 at 7:25 am
    • Reply Jane Go

      Awwwww. I hope you will have closer ties with your kids in the future. Iba-iba talaga ang relationships. Ako din not close to my mom, even now it’s a constant struggle for me to spend time with her kasi hindi talaga enjoy kahit na anong pilit ko. The feeling of resentment will always be there kahit na anong making-up pa ang maganap. What’s done is done, mahirap ibaon. I think it’s too late for you & me to get close to them at this stage, kaya laban-bawi nalang sa offspings! ;) Bet! And thank you for the love, appreciate it talaga! :-*

      September 14, 2016 at 9:42 am
  • Reply edelweiza

    Sikat ka na talaga, Ms. Jane, may mga bashers na, hahaha. Ganun daw pag mabunga ang isang puno, pinupukol. Okay sakin maski sponsored posts basta yung pagsulat ramdam ko pa rin yung personality ng blogger, at 100% opinion pa rin nya yung nababasa ko. I’ve earned money from my blog and I continue to do so. I’ve been invited to a lot of events (attended many and declined many more). Blogging has been my hobby since 2005 and I’m thankful for all the perks and opps that have come and continue to come with it. Blogging is not for all and like every other good thing in this world, it has an end. Let’s be happy and just enjoy it while it lasts. :)

    But very well said, Jana. Feisty pero nasa lugar. I would have done the same for my mom. :)

    September 14, 2016 at 3:09 pm
    • Reply Jane Go

      I couldn’t have said it any better dear Edel. Let’s continue to blog for ourselves & spread love & cheer. Mwah! :-*

      September 15, 2016 at 7:43 am

    very well said po.. I’ve been a follower of this blog for quite sometime now and I’m always looking forward for you new post. It’s has been a guide, inspiration, and break from the seriousness of this world.
    I’m also a blogger, mom and wife. I started blogging for the sake of documenting my adventures and as a break from my chaotic world of employee and motherhood (and demanding world of being a wife). Then, I realized how demanding and hard it could be. Till now, I can’t even called myself a writer.
    I 200% agree with you that blogging is not an “easy peasy” hobby. Many people have the wrong idea that blogging means money. They don’t know how committed one should be. It should always begin with a passion. Writing is not just simply writing. It takes a lot of research, reading and frequent reviews. It also takes a good mood to even begin with.
    Blogging should always be a way to influence positivity and set as an inspiration and I’m glad to find that in your blog. Just keep on infecting us with all your cheerful and grateful attitude.

    September 14, 2016 at 4:36 pm
    • Reply Jane Go

      Thank you for this. It means a lot that you can relate to what I’m feeling. I’m sure you’re a great writer, and a fantastic wife & mother. Here’s to many more years of writing, Michelle! <3 Mwah!

      September 15, 2016 at 7:42 am
  • Reply besYS

    Hi Jane!
    Sometimes people are like that. Hindi na clear mag isip, kung ano na lang ang maisip at masabi. :-{
    I totally agree with you, this is a personal blog – your personal life that you are sharing with your readers. I’m happy to see you’re happy with your husband & your kids.
    I truly appreciate your hardwork, thoughtfulness and cheerfulness. :-)

    Sa ibang tao dyan na nega at mema – manigas. ( hehe!)

    September 14, 2016 at 8:51 pm
    • Reply Jane Go

      Omg may natitunan akong new word sayo Bes! :)) Magamit nga yan in one of myposts. Walang copyright ha? Hahaha thank you so much for the love & kindness! :-*

      September 15, 2016 at 7:39 am
  • Reply Shi

    This is the first time that I’m going to comment here. I’m one of your silent readers and I love your blog eversince I started reading it. I discovered your blog late last year and I got hooked right away! I’ve learned to love the Goppets since. I really admire your family. And I admire you Ms. Jane, how you take care of your family. I hope I meet you in person. Btw.. I saw you with your daughters a few weeks ago sa atc.. Super na starstruck ako! Natulala talaga ako sabi ng hubby ko. Lol! Anyway.. Deadma na sa mga nega Ms. Jane. You are very much loved by your family and your readers! Mas marami kaming nagmamahal sayo. :)

    September 15, 2016 at 1:42 am
    • Reply Jane Go

      Thank you Shi! I am overwhelmed with the outpouring of love. <3 I hope our paths cross again as I would very much love to meet you & give you a big hug for the support. Truly! :-*

      September 15, 2016 at 7:35 am
  • Reply Adrianne

    You go Shob!!!! How can people be so insensitive. Why all the hate and negativity? Adrielle and I will always be here to support the GOppets no matter what, Auntie!!! Don’t mind them. They’re just insecure. We love youuuu ❤️

    September 15, 2016 at 9:56 am
    • Reply Jane Go

      Waaah come visit us naaaa!! I wanna take you guys to Neil’s Kitchen so very instagrammable & you’ll like the food. Come naaaa!

      September 15, 2016 at 11:45 am
  • Reply Jane Gatchalian

    Hi Jane,

    What did I miss? Buti pala I didn’t get to read those nega comments about you or your blogging. Like the others I always look forward to reading your posts as we (my husband and I) read your posts. I delete all the spam mails and save the best for the last. Your blog and Joy Mendoza’s. My daughter is a fashion blogger too and I understand why Jana had to defend you the way she did! It’s not really easy to be a blogger. My daughter gets free things from people too but she only blogs about them when she really likes it. Just like you! You are honest, loving, so true na true that’s why I love reading your posts! So just don’t mind them! Write pa more please. You are truly blessed! Take care my tukayo. Hope to meet your wonderful family one day. God bless you and your family!

    September 15, 2016 at 4:16 pm
    • Reply Jane Go

      Thank you for the sweetest & kindest words, Jane! <3 Joy is such an inspiration, to be included in your blog roll makes me so happy & honored. Your daughter Melissa is a gem, I like her style. Hope to meet you soon, mwah! :-*

      September 15, 2016 at 7:15 pm
  • Reply Jane Gatchalian

    Hi Jane,

    How did u find out about Melissa? Galing mo naman! I didn’t mention her name ah. Hope to meet you soon. Mwah!!!

    September 15, 2016 at 8:57 pm
    • Reply Jane Go

      Melissa has a great fashion blog, Jane. Please congratulate her for Sartorial Panda. Great read & fashion info! We are such lucky moms to have beautiful, passionate & artsy daughters! :-*

      September 16, 2016 at 8:26 am

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