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Love, Ms. Piggy: How’s Your Heart?

Relationships are complicated. Parang gulong yan, umiikot. Sometimes you’re high & on top of the world. Sometimes you feel rock-bottom low. In my 29 years with Kap, I’m already an expert at relationships. Papunta pa lang ang mga bagets, naka-ilang ikot na ako sa rotonda.

Some time ago, I noticed that not everything was right in my one of my children’s world. So I asked.. How’s your heart, anak? The reply, “heavy mom”. So we talk & I give the soundest & most impartial advice that I can. During the course of the days that followed, I asked again.. How’s your heart, anak? The reply, “a little better than yesterday mom. Not as heavy as before”. I sigh with a breath of small relief & hope for the best. But I worry. I always worry. It’s my job.


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As moms, we have the infinite need to protect our kids. We want to look out for their best interest. When we see them sad, our immediate reaction is to try to solve their problems for them. But if there’s one thing I’ve learned being a mom, we have to let them fight their own battles. We will not be around forever so they have to toughen up & learn to survive in this world.

Those several days, I saw my child sad. This child whom I have given great care since birth. This child whom I have protected the best that I can so no pain can enter the life I have tried so hard to shelter. Pati lamok nga hindi ko pinapadapuan. Then all of a sudden, someone comes along & ruins your perfect world where your child is free from pain & heartaches. Along with love & joy, pain & sadness is also introduced. Problems start cropping up that ruins the harmony & balance you have worked so hard to build. You stand around looking helplessly, praying that everything will work out to your child’s advantage. But life doesn’t always work out the way you plan it to be.

As moms, even if we want to takes sides -to be blunt, take our child’s side, and trash talk the other to whoever will listen out of hurt & anger, we can’t. No matter who’s right & who’s wrong. Because there will come a time that they will patch things up & you can’t take back what you’ve said, or your opinion on the matter. The tables will turn and suddenly, you’re the one on the other side of the fence.

So hard as it may be, bear everything and shut your mouth. Think evil thoughts if you will, but never voice out an opinion that can complicate things & implicate you. You can never earn your child’s trust again once you cross the line. You must always, ALWAYS be on your children’s side, and let them know it. That you will always be there for them -never judging.

How’s your heart? Is it the heart of a tiger mom? Ready to fight at a moment’s notice? Or is your heart the heart of a lamb? Creating peace & harmony, there to patiently listen, there to wholeheartedly support. Never judging.

It won’t always be rainbows & unicorns. There will be days that when you ask your child, How’s your heart anak? And it won’t be well. But as moms, we need to lend our ears, listen. And give our shoulders for them to cry on. All we can do is kiss the boo-boo & in time, wait for it to be well. Life is not perfect, but remember.. there may not be unicorns, but there will always be a rainbow after the rain. Chances are, things will work out fine. They always do in the end. <3

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  • Reply Noel Q.

    What a nice post! Happy Easter Jane and the GOppets!!!

    April 5, 2015 at 8:32 am
    • Reply sugargospice

      Thank you Niel! Happy easter! :-*

      April 5, 2015 at 9:09 am
  • Reply med

    Very well said! That’s why I luv you, I learn a lot from you! Thank you.

    April 5, 2015 at 9:34 am
    • Reply sugargospice

      Thank you my dear meding! :-*

      April 5, 2015 at 10:01 am
  • Reply Kei Aclaro

    Awww… So touching naman po, Ms. Jane… Hindi pa po ako maka relate kasi maliit pa ang son ko but when that time comes, maybe I won’t be able to stop myself from being a tiger mom… Syempre we would do anything para hindi masaktan ang mga kids natin… Hay… But your advice on being able to restrain yourself and always ready to be there for them and listen to them, I will take it to heart… Thank you for being an inspiration to all moms like me…

    Happy Easter, Ms. Jane and to the rest of the GOppets!

    April 5, 2015 at 12:33 pm
    • Reply sugargospice

      Happy easter kei! :-*

      April 5, 2015 at 1:14 pm
  • Reply mr_jeng

    OH MEN…..

    don’t worry too much…. we all know kayang kaya niya yan. and eveything will be okay…

    Ganoon naman lagi.. kasi nandian si God and besides.. nandian ka para sa kanya!

    Think Positive po..

    April 6, 2015 at 2:15 am
    • Reply sugargospice

      Thank you so much bbbear! <3 And hey, have a safe trip tomorrow. I'm so jelly I want a vacay too! Have fun! :-*

      April 6, 2015 at 9:25 pm
  • Reply Jason Ellis

    You are a loving mom, I wonder what kind of mother who would leave her children, I witnessed this with my relatives, now only their father takes care of the two kids.

    April 6, 2015 at 3:06 am
    • Reply sugargospice

      Thank you Jason. :) I can’t imagine parting with any of my children. It’s like going through life without my heart. I guess your relative must have a really good reason to do so. No mother would ever want to leave her child. <3

      April 6, 2015 at 9:31 am
  • Reply michymichymoo

    A very touching post, Mama Bear. Your kids are so lucky to have you as their mom. :)

    April 6, 2015 at 1:16 pm
    • Reply sugargospice

      Thank you bbbeary. As I am having them. :-*

      April 6, 2015 at 8:19 pm

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