Kap & Me

Love, Ms. Piggy (Patience is a Virtue)

Kap is known as the KJ in our family. No, not Kill Jane -he loves me too much. I mean Kill Joy! ;P Every time he would come home, patay aircon.. patay ilaw.. back to nature ang peg namin. It’s because our electric bill is in the 5-digit/month would you believe?! We have asked Meralco on numerous occasions to check our meter but they insist it’s what we really consume!

He is also known as the noise maker. When he talks on the phone, akala mo naka-megaphone, I swear. I often tell him to pipe it down as he’s too loud. And when he watches TV, it’s turned really high even though he’s already asleep the remote control is glued to his hand & no one else can touch it. Bingi na yata.

Speaking of TV, no fail, he always comes home on the dot at 12 noon for lunch to watch EAT BULAGA. Even if I beg him to change the channel when contestants sing off key which is a BIG turn-off when you’re happily eating your lunch, or when contestants try hard to speak in broken english when they obviously are more comfortable speaking in the mother tongue, he won’t. He’ll make it louder instead just to tune me out. Apart from Bayanihan ni Juan, his favorite is the question & answer portion during contests. Name it.. Mr. Pogi, Super Sireyna, Little Miss Philippines, Ang Joke Ko. That’s laugh trip for him. And yes, I know them all, and it’s Kap’s fault! I can’t do anything but cringe as he watches in delight. @_@

But even with our many differences, we still choose to stay together in 1 room. I would rather be miserable but be near him, than be happy but away from him. Gets? And he feels the same way. I’m a heavy snorer because I’m -to put it delicately, heavy set. :P And Jela, who sleeps with us, is a heavy snorer as well. So whichever side he turns to -to the left or to the right, he hears rolling thunder. He often tells me that Jela & I talk to each other in our sleep & that we should learn to communicate in a quieter way. And yet, he still sleeps beside me. Even when I hog all the pillows & he’s left with the lumpy one. He doesn’t complain when all that’s left on his side of the bed is 12 inches & one wrong move he’s down because apparently, I gravitate towards him even in sleep in our king-sized bed. ;))



Even in purchases. I always buy brand new. I don’t like using people’s used stuff. Who knows where it’s been. But Kap, he NEVER buys brand new (well except for clothes, shoes & toiletries). All his cars, the older better. He is always in sulit.com because he says why buy new when you can buy used at half the price. OMG!!! @_@

In marriages, you can’t be Ken & Barbie living a perfect life. There is no such thing, believe me. You are 2 very different people with different upbringings & lifestyles. So patience is a virtue that must be exercised at all times, coupled with acceptance & understanding. You don’t marry a person and then go about changing him. You adapt. You accept. You live with it.

Marriage is work. And if you’re not ready to get to work, then you have no business getting married. Plain & simple.

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  • Reply maricel h.

    Ms. Jane, I love your Ms. Piggy posts! I can relate, specially the Eat Bulaga issue. Anong bang meron don? Hahaha
    Hubby wants to watch them live in a comedy bar pa, di ko maintindihan :))

    July 6, 2014 at 12:07 pm
    • Reply sugargospice

      pwede magsama sila ni jef tapos tayong 2 foodfest nalang hehe!! Super hate ko talaga ang EB huhuhu!!

      July 6, 2014 at 12:11 pm
  • Reply Philip

    This is so sweet. I’m melting :-)

    July 6, 2014 at 1:01 pm
    • Reply sugargospice

      you will also find your soulmate soon.. sana lang hindi mahilig sa eat bulaga hehehe

      July 6, 2014 at 1:53 pm
  • Reply Jing

    Boom!!! You hit the spot again Mommy Jane! Sapul ako hehe natawa ako sa megaphone :) ….ayayay, differences! I will always remember po: adapt, accept and live with it! :)) hahaha..nice post Mommy Jane! Thanks!

    July 6, 2014 at 4:10 pm
    • Reply sugargospice

      Thank you Jing! :) I’m happy that I get to share, advice, and make you guys laugh at the same time. Huwag sana kayo magsawa. Mwah! :-*

      July 6, 2014 at 4:15 pm
  • Reply michconstantino

    Your blog is my favorite website apart from those usually I access everyday… makes me ask myself makahanap kaya ako ng soulmate ko? :))))
    Keep on writing Ms. Jane… your readers love you. Hope to meet you soon *sending my hugs from QC*

    July 6, 2014 at 5:27 pm
    • Reply sugargospice

      Thank yoh Mich! :-* I appreciate that you always make an effort to comment & let me know that I’m appreciated & that my blog amounts to something! :)

      July 6, 2014 at 6:22 pm
  • Reply Chel Pablo

    You’re my favorite online couple! Ang cute!!!


    Ok lang yun, Miss Jane, na matipid si Kap sa kuryente. More money for shopping!

    July 7, 2014 at 6:57 am
    • Reply sugargospice

      actually you have a point Chel hahaha!! Grabe naman kasi maka-bill ang meralco! :P

      July 7, 2014 at 7:55 am
  • Reply Michelle Melo (@michymichymoo)

    You are a testimony that differences can be worked on. hehehe. Inspirasyon. Ayieeee. I miss you, Mama Bear! <3

    July 7, 2014 at 10:38 am
    • Reply sugargospice

      Thank you michy bear mukhang seryoso na ah!! ;) Kwento naman jan hahaha!! Miss you too! :-*

      July 7, 2014 at 10:41 am
  • Reply EricJaz Foodies (@EricJazFoodies)

    HA HA HA HA! I LIKE Kap MORE because he LOVES EAT BULAGA! Don’t worry Jane, I still love you even if you don’t. Ha ha ha ha! :) NOOD NA KASI! Mwah!

    July 7, 2014 at 2:49 pm
    • Reply sugargospice

      soooorreehhh jaz!!! hahaha but thank you for loving me still!! I love YOU!! :-*

      July 7, 2014 at 9:53 pm
  • Reply marian

    i really love this section. it’s nice to be reminded every so often how you can make your marriage work.

    July 8, 2014 at 8:28 am
    • Reply sugargospice

      Thank you Marian!! :-*

      July 8, 2014 at 12:40 pm
  • Reply dane relente

    you never fail to amaze me!!
    IN JUST ONE POST nasabi mo na lahat!! haha!
    ang galing lang kasi as simple as patience is a virtue ee you were able to elaborate po everything (almost) na nagaganap sa buhay nyo ni make?
    You are correct when you said “You don’t marry a person and then go about changing him. You adapt. You accept. You live with it”
    lahat mamahalin mo sa isang tao even those na hindi mo inakalang kaya mong mahalin or gawin :)

    I hope to meet you soon po

    July 8, 2014 at 2:51 pm
    • Reply sugargospice

      hahaha thank you Dane! When you’ve been married for as long as I have ang daming kwento talaga to the point na overshare omg! ;)) Thank you so much for showing your appreciation. <3 It's comments like yours that make me wanna share my life & adventures. Thank you for making me happy! :-*

      July 8, 2014 at 3:03 pm
  • Reply dane relente

    you are most welcome! I admire you and your relationship with kap!! i am wanting hthe same relationship with hubby
    nakaktuwa po talga whenever I read your blog – di pwedeng d ako ngingiti hehe

    just like you guys bata palang po kami ni hubby mg bf na :) I am only 25 po but I got preggo early and now spending almost 10 years with my bf from h.s – we now have two beautiful babies! hahaha
    I now have an 8 yr old girl and a 7 months old bebe :)

    Again I hope to meet you soon and I promise to read you blog eveyday! hahaah

    July 8, 2014 at 3:09 pm
    • Reply sugargospice

      Awwwww I love your love story!! <3 Thank you for sharing it with me Dane. Ganyan ang mga gusto kong love stories yung may happy ending! I hope to meet you soon too Dane!! :-*

      July 8, 2014 at 3:10 pm
  • Reply dane relente

    TRUE!! just like fairy tales me happy ending!
    going home time n pu ! :)
    I will stay tuned :) hehe

    July 8, 2014 at 3:16 pm
  • Reply KassTastrophic

    That is why I will never get married. *bow*

    On a serious note, agree ako: if you’re not ready to get to work then you have no business getting married.
    This is not a game, kids! *may pinaghugutan*

    July 8, 2014 at 11:47 pm
    • Reply sugargospice

      I-kwento yang pinaghuhugutan ora mismo! :)

      July 8, 2014 at 11:48 pm
  • Reply Sumi Go | The Purple Doll

    I don’t even know Mr. Pogi and Ang Joke Ko, and I occasionally but willingly watch EB pa ah! Haha! XD

    You and Kap really amaze me, Mama Bear! From your blog and chika, I knew you two have differences, but I’ve always found your relationship so sweet and inspirational. J and I have a LOT of differences too, and I often get annoyed by a lot of his antics. But we (mostly I) will try to develop more patience. I think kulang pa what I have, ’cause whenever I TRY not to nag or argue, sumisikip dibdib ko from trying to keep it all in. But thank you for being an inspiration to us! Model couple talaga namin kayo! :D

    Love you, Mama Bear! <3

    July 14, 2014 at 12:56 am
    • Reply sugargospice

      Thank you my baby Sumi!! <3 We're not perfect, but we're perfect for each other. ;)

      July 14, 2014 at 8:21 am

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