Kap & Me Others

Love, Ms. Piggy (Love the Gift)

I may have given you the impression that my life with Kap is a bed of roses. It’s not.

Like any husband and wife, we have squabbles. We have moments when we don’t agree on the same thing. When we find each other irritating. When we want to have a break, or a time out from each other. That’s perfectly normal. No relationship is perfect. Ours isn’t.

I love Kap. But he’s a noisy fella. I love the peace & quiet that solitude brings. He disrupts that. When he’s home, the TV is blaring that I can’t even hear myself think. Or the iPod is streaming loud music, which for me is nose because I never did like to play the radio or cd. His voice vibrates through the wall when he’s on the phone that I sometimes wonder if he’s gone deaf through the years we’ve been together that he can’t hear his own voice or how loud he is. He hogs all my pillows, crowds my bed & asks for foot rubs even when I’m busy typing away beside him. He looks over my phone & iPad when I’m reading & snoops at all my messages. He contradicts me in just about everything. BUT. I love him. And I absolutely can’t live without him.


I get annoyed when he’s home. But I miss him terribly when he’s not. Can you relate?

To be fair, it ain’t a picnic living with me either with my moods & idiosyncrasies.

There will come a point in time that you just want to give up on love because of your differences. Or a huge big fight has erupted and you lose yourself, your focus. STOP. Rewind. Your love for each other is a gift. Sure, a fight can temporarily cloud your judgement. A fight can lead to unretractable angry & hurtful words that can sway you to the course of self destruction, pushing your spouse away to cause him the same hurt & pain you are feeling. Again, STOP. PAUSE. BREATH. Take a break, have a kitkat! ;)

Think back to the time when you were just starting. When you were falling in love & life was a bed of roses. Think about his good traits, what made you fall in love with him in the first place. Think of the life you have built together, the dreams you have shared & made into reality. Then unpause. Resume. Hate the fight, but LOVE THE GIFT. Everything will be ok. With love, nothing is impossible.

PS: Thank you to my friend NIEL QUINTOS for the very apt theme song for this post! Niel, naiyak nama ako haha. My sentiments exactly grabe! <3 CLICK HERE TO GO TO THE SONG “NEVER NEVER NEVER”. 

“Impossible to live with you but I know I could never live without you”

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  • Reply Maricel hipol

    Awwwwwwwww :) ) Love it!

    November 30, 2014 at 12:03 pm
    • Reply sugargospice

      Thank you Maricel. Miss you! I’m sure it’s super busy at Bayleaf, pasko na! Please give my regards to everyone. Mwah! <3

      November 30, 2014 at 12:47 pm
  • Reply kei aclaro

    Hi, Ms. Jane… I can totally relate with your post. There will always be a time when the couple gets irritated over small things and sometimes end up in petty misunderstandings/squabbles. When that time comes, you just have to be calm and reflect over why you were togteher in the first place. It’s because of LOVE right? So you just have to extend your patience and understanding more than it was before and try to be open with each other about your feelings and opinions to prevent misunderstandings in the future.

    I also believe that having a “ME” or ALONE time helps because it allows you to just be yourself and release your stress from your daily life. After that, go na uli with all the stress and the drama of being a wife and a mom. Hehehe… :-)

    November 30, 2014 at 12:26 pm
    • Reply sugargospice

      I couldn’t have said it any better. Thank you Kei for sharing your thoughts & sentiments! :-*

      November 30, 2014 at 12:46 pm
  • Reply Noel Q.

    Jane, familiar ka ba sa song ni Shirley Bassey (eeeekkk, thunders na talaga ako! hahaha) na ” Never, Never, Never”? That’s my theme song for this post of yours, and our relationship with our partners. Listening to it now, and naluluha ako sa tuwa na meron akong The Partner na sobrang nagmamahal sa akin. Thanks for this post, we all need to be reminded that relationships aren’t perfect, but, your love for each other makes it all so worth it,

    “You make me laugh, you make me cry, you make me live, you make me die, for you
    You make me sing, you make me sad, you make me glad, you make me mad, for you

    I love you, hate you, love you, hate you

    But I’ll want you till the world stops turning
    For whatever you do
    I never, never, never want to be in love with anyone but you”

    November 30, 2014 at 12:42 pm
    • Reply sugargospice

      Awwwww thank you for telling me about this song I will google it now. I’m sure I’ll love it because of the lyrics. <3 And, I'm happy you can relate. Hindi ako nagiisa hahaha! :P

      November 30, 2014 at 12:45 pm
      • Reply Noel Q.

        Hope you like it, too =)

        November 30, 2014 at 12:46 pm
      • Reply Noel Q.

        Uy may link na sa taas yung song, hehehe… sooo glad it touched you the same way it did me. =)

        November 30, 2014 at 4:38 pm
        • Reply sugargospice

          syempre. Agad agad hahaha! :-*

          November 30, 2014 at 8:30 pm
  • Reply michconstantino

    This is a perfect reminder on why you should not give up with people you love :D

    December 1, 2014 at 3:54 pm
    • Reply sugargospice

      Actually, I gave up on my dad hahaha! :P

      December 1, 2014 at 6:23 pm
      • Reply michconstantino

        I think it happens :P but I know God gave you something more than that now through Kap and the three kids :)

        Hmm, I used to give up on people I love only to realize they are worth more than the hardships I had experienced. :)

        December 2, 2014 at 9:07 am
        • Reply sugargospice

          So true. Thank you Mich! :-*

          December 2, 2014 at 9:55 am
  • Reply KaT catapusan

    I can relate!! But the good thing here is that even if you fight and get annoyed wih each other, you still feel that he is the greatest thing that ever happened to you! Such a wonderful gift you’ll treasure even on the bad days! ;) Love the post!!!

    December 3, 2014 at 11:50 am
    • Reply sugargospice

      Thanks Kat! :) Haven’t seen you for the longest time. Hope to see you soon! :-*

      December 3, 2014 at 11:51 am

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