Kap & Me My Kids Others

Trust and Obey

As a mom, it is but natural for me to want to give my children things. Nice things. Of course I give them lots of love & attention, but my spiritual gift is giving. I am happiest when I am giving. To others, but especially to my children. I love seeing the delight in their eyes when I am able to give them gifts even on no special occasions.


In Christianity, spiritual gifts are endowments which may be given by the Holy Spirit. These are the supernatural graces which individual Christians need to fulfill the mission of the church. They are described in the New Testament, primarily in 1 Corinthians 12, Romans 12, and Ephesians 4. 1 Peter 4 also touches on the spiritual gifts. The gifts are related to both seemingly “natural” abilities and seemingly more “miraculous” abilities, empowered by the Holy Spirit.

I want to take them places & travel around the world. I want to give my babyson a new car, my Ate a condo for a halfway home. I want to give my Lovey a great 16th birthday party. I want to invest in properties to take care of our family so Kap doesn’t have to work so hard. Want, want, want. I want so many things that I was becoming materialistic. And my goal was not to store riches in heaven anymore, but on earth.


Someone is turning 18 this year & I was really dead set on giving him something wonderful. But God has other plans. And this is maybe.. too much too soon? One day..


Matthew 6:19 “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal.” 20 “But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys, and where thieves do not break in or steal”; 21 for where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.


A couple of weeks ago, I really thought we were set for life. All my hopes & dreams were laid in this one basket. I was already counting on what I would get for each of them & for the family, so we can take it easy. So Kap can finally take it easy. But things don’t go as planned. Sometimes, God has a way of pulling you back down to earth when you’re so high & full of yourself that what really matters takes a back seat to what’s in your line of vision.

Even until now, the kids still catch me staring into space from time to time, dumbfounded. Still shell-shocked with how fast my plans have crumbled into nothingness. It was so real that I could taste it. So the fall was pretty painful, the cut deep.

Last Sunday at church. God talked to me..


Isaiah 55: 8 “For My thoughts are not your thoughts, Nor are your ways My ways,” declares the LORD. 9 “For as the heavens are higher than the earth, So are My ways higher than your ways And My thoughts than your thoughts.”


Dear God, I don’t ask You to make my life easier. But I ask You to give me the strength to face all my troubles. In Jesus’ name.

In my ambition for my kids & my family, I got derailed. I saw blessings in another form when in fact God’s ultimate blessings were right in front of me. Kap, even though I always went head on without his knowledge & blessings, always stood by me & saves me unceasingly from myself. He is the calm to my storm, and is always there ready to pick me up when I fall. A ready shoulder to cry on. He is my biggest blessing.

The kids, even though I couldn’t give them the things I promised, still pointed out to me that our family is what matters. They didn’t play the blaming game, instead, they lifted me up the best that they could & comforted me. Last Sunday in church, as they always do, they gathered around me & took me in their arms as we sang the hymn of praise. I cried. Why did I ever think that what we had wasn’t enough? I can live without material things, but I can’t live without my family. And God pointed this out to me.


Proverbs 3: 5 “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding;” 6 “In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.”


Coming from a strong-willed, female-led family, I always took it upon myself to do the right thing, do what I think is best for our family when in fact as a wife, I should follow, and not lead.  This is Kap’s constant struggle in our relationship, and yet he always forgives & understands. I was making plans FOR him, not WITH him. And now, God has humbled me.


Ephesians 5: 22 “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.” 23 “For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.” 24 “Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.”


I am still smarting, I am still hurting. But like my Lovey told me amidst my sea of tears, “Mommy, your hopes & dreams aren’t gone. They are just put on hold. God will give it to you in His perfect time.” She then sent me this..


When did you get so smart, baby of mine? Thank you for being my rock. <3

Father, I believe that through my frustrations, my failures, my mistakes, You are doing something in me. You are making me better. I will bless more people. My story is not yet done. You are at work in my life. I declare my dreams will come true in Your perfect time in Jesus’ name.

So now, hard as it may be, and even though I don’t seem to understand, I just have to lean back & let God do the driving. To learn to trust that God will never leave me nor forsake me. That He knows what’s best, and His best will come in His perfect time.




Trust & Obey. For there’s no other way..

Lord I surrender to You every need, every problem, every dream. I ask You to be my Provider. My Miracle Worker. And I declare that Your dreams for my life will come true. In Jesus’ name. 

Do I really need that bigger house when I already have a perfectly good home filled with love & laughter? Do I really need a new car when what we have serves the purpose? Do I really need to travel far & wide when I am already being blessed with opportunities left & right, getting me to places I’ve never been & letting me experience things I’ve never even expected in my wildest dreams?

I am thankful for eyes that can see the beauty of each & every day. I am thankful for the life that I get to spend with loved ones. I am thankful for the good health, the many blessings -big & small. And most of all, I am thankful for my family who loves me for ME, not what I can give them in exchange.

Thank you God for all Your grace. And forgive me for the times that I don’t see what is right before my eyes. <3



Matthew 6: 25 “For this reason I say to you, do not be worried about your life, as to what you will eat or what you will drink; nor for your body, as to what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing?” 26 “Look at the birds of the air, that they do not sow, nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not worth much more than they? 27 “And who of you by being worried can add a single hour to his life?”




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  • Reply Noel Q.

    I love your post today Jane! It was a nice meditation on this Sunday morning. Truly, His ways are higher than our ways and His thoughts are higher than ours. Man’s wisdom is foolishness to God. He knows our desires, and He will fulfill them better than we could ever do with our own strenth.

    Trust and Obey lang talaga ang kailangan…

    Happy Mother’s Day ulit! Mwah!

    May 10, 2015 at 8:15 am
    • Reply sugargospice

      Thank you Niel. Napakahirap magtiwala at sumunod huhu but I will really do my best. Thank you for always lifting up my spirits. Please don’t wane on your support kahit nasa US ka na ha! :-*

      May 10, 2015 at 9:06 am
      • Reply Noel Q.

        OP KORS NOT!!! Tsaka sandali lang ako nandun… balika agad ako (after 5 months, hahaha…)

        May 10, 2015 at 9:12 am
        • Reply sugargospice

          Hoong togoool!! :'((

          May 10, 2015 at 9:37 am
  • Reply Kei Aclaro

    Ms. Jane, always think po na if God closes a door, He opens a window… He may not give it to you today but He will give it to you in His own special time… You know how to share your blessings po kaya you will be blessed more…

    Happy Mother’s Day to you po! You are an epitome of how a mother should be. I am always here cheering and supporting you on…

    May 10, 2015 at 9:17 am
    • Reply sugargospice

      You are so sweet Kei thank you so much for all your uplifting messages. Indeed I am blessed & you are one of my blessings Kei. Thank you for your friendship! :-*

      May 10, 2015 at 9:38 am
  • Reply Marie

    Jane, Happy Mother’s Day to you! God bless you always.

    May 11, 2015 at 6:07 pm
    • Reply sugargospice

      Thank you Marie! :-*

      May 11, 2015 at 10:31 pm
  • Reply aNOYNYMOUS

    Hi Jane. I came across this post and I absolutely loved it. Oftentimes, I find myself in the same shoes – wanting, wanting, wanting. As a headstrong female, I know what you mean about having that feeling to always take charge and to make plans. Failure is never an option and when it comes, is actually a very difficult thing to face.
    I am newly married and had a miscarriage recently and I cannot tell you how much pain it causes me everyday. It feels so painful since I’ve always had it fairly easy in terms of school and my career. I feel like such a failure in this aspect. My husband has been nothing but wonderful and fully supportive. Even If I am oftentimes bossy and stubborn, my husband is always extremely patient and understanding. He is as wonderful as your Kap, truly a blessing to their wives.
    As we struggle to have our own children, your insights are something I find to be inspiring. Yours and your Lovey’s beautiful quote I hope that I will always find the strength and the will to overcome obstacles. Please include us in your prayers, if that wouldn’t be too difficult. We shall include you in ours as well.
    Thank you and may God continue to bless your family. May we both be able to achieve what we long for.

    May 13, 2015 at 8:02 am
    • Reply sugargospice

      Yes, thank God for our husbands. I am so very sorry for your loss. My kids are my world so I cannot even imagine the pain that your are goung through. I will most certainly pray for you & that God will bless your womb & allow you to carry your child to full & healthy term. Sometimes it’s really so hard to trust & obey. Even now i’m pushing 50 & it’s still so hard for me to fully trust God. Let’s pray for each other. One thing about feeling down is that there’s no other way but up. Thank you for sharing I appreciate it. :-*

      May 13, 2015 at 8:07 am
  • Reply frannywanny

    I always believe in the saying… “when God closes a door, he opens a big wide window” Sometimes things do not go as planned but trust that something better for you will come your way. :) Belated Happy Mother’s Day, Jane.

    May 13, 2015 at 2:23 pm
    • Reply sugargospice

      Thank you so much for always comforting me & letting me feel your presence when it counts the most franny! :-*

      May 13, 2015 at 9:19 pm
  • Reply med

    Super love this post.

    SMILE because I know God heard your prayer. Just wait and see, He has bigger and better plans for you and your family.

    May 13, 2015 at 5:01 pm
    • Reply sugargospice

      Thank you Meding my love. I will take all the prayers I can get from dear friends like you! <3

      May 13, 2015 at 9:18 pm
  • Reply rhea

    Hi Ms. Jane! Ive been following your blog for quite sometime na, what drew me to your site was your writing style…. free flowing yung mga thoughts mo…as if nakukuwento ka lang sa close friend mo ng family life mo, ng inner most feelings mo..then somewhere a long the way, i thought i lost you..i got flooded with your sponsored post…parang naging food blogger ka na..but i still visit your site in hope na nakita ulit kita…and with this post i found you…its nice to see you again!

    May 13, 2015 at 9:45 pm
    • Reply sugargospice

      Thank you Rhea! :) I will try to come up with more personal posts these coming weeks. Thank you for your interest in my life. Mwah! :-*

      May 13, 2015 at 9:53 pm
  • Reply josephine

    i read this just now…so beautiful….your blog really is a blessing to me…

    May 27, 2015 at 8:16 am
    • Reply sugargospice

      Thank you Josephine. As you are a blessing to me. I appreciate your support. :-*

      May 27, 2015 at 8:17 am
  • Reply Joan Soberano

    i love this post Ms. Jane. It was very transparent and very inspiring. Amen to this.

    July 5, 2015 at 6:24 pm
    • Reply sugargospice

      Thank you Joan mwah mwah! :-*

      July 5, 2015 at 6:39 pm

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