Kap & Me Others

The Taming of the Shrew

My life with Kap is a constant battle with cheapness -but I say this was humor & love ha. I just oftentimes stop & wonder why, and muni-muni what happened along the way, because I was privy to his life as a single. Hindi naman sya pinagdamutan ng magulang nya growing up. He only had to ask & his parents gave him his heart’s desires whenever finances would permit. Ganun naman tayong mga magulang diba? Our kids’ happiness is our happiness.

Now that we’re sorta upgrading our life, I foresee plenty of unpleasantries & heated discussions ahead. Which is why most of the time, in order to keep the peace because the kids don’t like it when we argue, I just relent & hand over the reins to him. But then I seethe silently & it builds up. I’m only human. Tao lang naman ako na may puso at damdamin! :P


This photo is staged, lels.

Mahilig si Kap sa luma. And not the antique kind of old, mind you. Buti pa nga sana ang antique kasi may value. I’m saying the crappy kind of old. Yung mga pang-junk shop kind of old.

Minsan hindi talaga maiwasang sumama ang loob ko. Yun bang, I gave you a nice family, why can’t you give me a nice life naman? One that I deserve? One that I know we can afford? Talagang balde-baldeng silent cry yan. He would often tell me “eh yan lang ang kaya kong ibigay sayo. Pasensya ka na mahirap ang napangasawa mo“. But I know otherwise, which makes the hurt a little but more painful. Cheapskate lang talaga sya, lol. Period. But I shut up for the sake of peace. Aanuhin ko nga naman ang maganda at bagong bagay kung nagkakagulo naman kami sa bahay. Tama?

For our son’s 18th bday I so wanted to get him a new car. Hindi pumayag si Kap. #KontraBida Wag daw bago, siya daw ang bibili. Ang binigay nya lumang kakarag-karag. Eto namang anak kong mokong, tuwang-tuwa. My heart bled because I wanted his first car to be memorable naman sana. He’s been so good, keeping his grades up, not doing bad things young boys do now. (Well not that I know of!) So I wanted to reward him with a nice car. And hindi naman whim yan, naghintay rin naman ako. This is for our son’s 18th birthday, monumental. I’m not talking about millions worth na sports car. I’m talking about a regular brand new car that I can be assured won’t stop in the middle of the road lalo na sa gabi at maliblib na lugar!

PicMonkey Collage

Ang resulta.. KADITULAK! :P

I also wanted to buy a new van for the family sana to replace our 10-year old car coz the kids are all big now -with loooong legs.¬†We can’t fit comfortably in an SUV anymore. Bawal daw ang bago. May nabili na daw sya na worth 20k. My gosh! Baka naman ma-tetano ako! Gumugulong pa ba yaaan???

He’s always like that. He has to be the cheapskate. Kakain sa labas kelangan somewhere cheap. Bibili ng gamit kelangan sa sale. Magta-travel kelangan cheapest flight na, cheapest accommodation pa tapos mega limited ang budget. Oh my gulay!

I feel that I deserve more. Its not like we can’t afford it -not to be mayabang. But I think he is taming me. He married a princess, and now he is training me to be a regular jane. He is forever testing my patience. It’s as if he doesn’t approve of the way I was brought up & he doesn’t want the kids to have the same sense of entitlement that I have. Maybe that’s why.

Ok fine. You win. Hi, I’m Jane. And I’m screwed a Shrew! :P


Love kita Honey. Maging sino (at ano) ka man! :P

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  • Reply Noel Q.

    Hahaha… I love this post! Siguro talaga “made-for-each-other” kayo kasi where you are weak, he is strong, and vice versa.

    …and it seems to work, since your kids grew up very adjusted. =)

    December 5, 2015 at 10:13 am
    • Reply sugargospice

      MFEO talaga kasi if kasing gastador ko ang napangasawa ko naisanla na siguro ako. Lol!

      December 5, 2015 at 10:56 am
  • Reply Pat

    High five tayo Achi Jane! My husband is like that too. Not kuripot or makunat, he just wants the best from our hard earned money. It’s not bad to buy nice things if you can afford it naman diba. Feeling ko nagsawa na rin sa luho when he was younger.
    I guess I’m being taught to spend more on better things like travel, experiences, etc. Pero hindi rin naman masamang maregaluhan ng nice bag twice a year (as in birthday and Christmas!) at magshopping once a month hehe :)

    December 5, 2015 at 11:41 am
    • Reply sugargospice

      Apir. buti ka nga twice a year Pat hehe. Ako once a decade. Lol! ;))

      December 5, 2015 at 11:48 am
  • Reply jo

    I will forever be aliw with your kwentos Ms. Jane!

    December 5, 2015 at 3:04 pm
    • Reply sugargospice

      Thank you jo. :) Laughter is the best medicine for kakunatitis. Lol.

      December 5, 2015 at 8:12 pm
  • Reply bes

    I’m sure too worried lang your husband kasi may pinapa aral kayo, 2 in college and 1 in high school. You have a very hardworking, responsible husband. Please don’t feel bad and wag mag tampo, daanin na lang sa lambing lagi. :-)

    December 5, 2015 at 7:15 pm
    • Reply sugargospice

      I will take your advice to heart. <3 Thank you mwah!

      December 5, 2015 at 8:12 pm
    • Reply letlet

      I agree! ganyan din parents ko Ms. JAne & bes, now that i’m a mother too naintindhan ko na, though there are times na di talaga makatiis at nagtatampo hehe

      December 6, 2015 at 9:54 am
  • Reply Erika

    #relate. feeling ko talaga tinadhana na maging friends tayo dahil ganyan din mararanasan ko. haha!

    December 6, 2015 at 8:04 am
    • Reply sugargospice

      Char. Bongga ka nga panay ang travel hello! :) Sarap sa hk now lamig. Brrrr. Have fun.

      December 6, 2015 at 10:17 am
      • Reply Erika

        Haha!! Chinika na pala ni ate sayo! wish ko lang super lamig climate change dati Dec around 9 to 12. now 22 deg! pero ok padin unlike here na summer!

        December 6, 2015 at 3:25 pm
        • Reply sugargospice

          oo nga december na parang summer hay! @_@

          December 6, 2015 at 5:11 pm
  • Reply letlet

    I love the staged photo!

    December 6, 2015 at 9:53 am
  • Reply Candy

    Mommy Jane, I am sure on your own you can afford to buy the things you want for yourself or your kids OR travel in posh and go to the nicest hotel when you travel but my take away here is how you honor and submit to your husband that even when you are screaming silently in protest, you still accord him with the respect and love due him. And for that, I love you even more. You are an inspiration. And Kap, he is a man of God. So Mich respect for him.

    December 6, 2015 at 10:20 am
    • Reply sugargospice

      Awwww thank you Candy! <3 You are so sweet. And yes, hindi umubra ang powers ko kay Kap hehe. Bow lang ng bow ng dahil sa pagibig! ;))

      December 6, 2015 at 10:37 am
  • Reply wheng cheng


    December 7, 2015 at 9:56 am
    • Reply sugargospice

      hehe sorry na po. Nagda-drama queen lang! :P No more na.

      December 7, 2015 at 10:45 am
  • Reply Mark Winston Letran

    GI tawag diyan tita, Genuine Intsik hehe. Kampi ako kay Kap dito! :)

    December 7, 2015 at 11:36 pm
    • Reply sugargospice

      HAHAHAHAHA! Kasi GI ka din! HAHAHAHAHA! :P

      December 8, 2015 at 8:25 am
      • Reply Cheska

        Tita, Mak is like Kap din hahaha. AS IN ?

        December 8, 2015 at 6:21 pm
        • Reply sugargospice

          Hahaha so for sure mabait at stick to one din (kasi takot gumastos). Lucky us! ;))

          December 8, 2015 at 7:01 pm
          • Mark Winston Letran

            more of, takot kayo mawala. kaya stick to one and not the gastos hehe

            December 9, 2015 at 3:29 am
          • sugargospice

            Yiiiiiiii kinilig naman ako sa team #MakNChes ! Pakasal naaaaa. Ninang ako ha!

            December 9, 2015 at 10:25 am
  • Reply med

    Your adventures with Kap are so aliw and yet lahat kami may natututunan. Maybe you can write a book? Best seller ito kapag nagkataon!

    December 9, 2015 at 9:05 am
    • Reply sugargospice

      hehehe wow hindi ko kinaya. Mag-author na si me! ;)) Thank you for always believing in me my dear meding. :-*

      December 9, 2015 at 10:26 am
  • Reply Helen Frances Inciong

    Hi, I just recently followed your blog. I love your posts :) Especially this one. Thanks for sharing :)

    December 9, 2015 at 2:22 pm
    • Reply sugargospice

      Thank you Helen & welcome to my crazy life! ;)

      December 9, 2015 at 3:13 pm
  • Reply Kei Aclaro

    Nakakawala ng pain ang post mo na ito, Ms. Jane! You and Kap complement each other kaya your marriage works. May balance… Ikaw yung sugar, sya yung spice (or is it vice versa po?) Hehehe… Naku, masaya panuorin lovestory nyo sa MMK. Hehehe! Pag naglabas po kayo ng book isa ako sa mga unang-unang bibili… :)

    December 12, 2015 at 12:02 am
    • Reply sugargospice

      Hahaha hayaan mo susulat ako sa MMK. Kelangan si Nadia Montenegro ang gaganap bilang ako hehe. #plussize

      December 12, 2015 at 1:59 pm
  • Reply Donna

    Miss Jane I was backreading your entries kasi baka may na-miss ako and I was right!I was not able to read this particular post.We have the same dilemma.My husband is so very like Kap, he has a good job and can afford nice things but always settles for the cheaper ones.Even when we travel he would book the cheap flights,cheap accommodation and would only splurge on food once or twice during the trip.Sometimes I think it may because he is an accountant and the logical way of spending is always at the back of his mind but hindi rin because his colleagues are not like him naman haha. Anyway being a cheapskate aside,my husband is a very responsible and morally upright man and I know that I can count on him anytime.So kahit he doesn’t really spoil me with material things super pampered naman ako with his love and attention so I’m happy na rin.When you write about Kap I just couldn’t help but compare him with my babylove.Keep the witty writing coming po and more power!

    September 27, 2016 at 10:37 pm
    • Reply Jane Go

      Hi Donna! :) With all my complaints, I can never ask for a better husband. He is truly God’s best for me & I wouldn’t ever trade him for all the riches in the world. He loves me the most & he is my one true happiness in this world. :) I’m very glad you & I were both able to find the perfect man. :-*

      September 28, 2016 at 9:46 am

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