Last year, I had the pleasure of meeting 2 of my readers who happened to be twins. I always get surprised when I encounter young readers kasi feel ko talaga pang-mommies ang audience impact ko, lol.
They sent us GOppets gals packages by mail & introduced themselves. Syempre naman, kinilig kami ng major major! We felt so loved & special! <3
Long story short, we got close and one of the twins, Adrielle, asked me to be a ninang in her forthcoming wedding. To be honest, I was apprehensive coz I’ve never been a ninang sa kasal before. Feeling ko I’m not at “that” age yet, hehe. But how can I say NO when they have been nothing but super kind & sweet to me, especially to my girls.
Kaya binigay ko ang matamis kong Oo. It was to be my initiation to matronic-hood lolz. ;P But then, MIL passed away so suddenly. As per tradition, babang-luksa was a period of one year. Although we are modern Chinese & don’t really observe the customs of our ancestors, we wanted to protect the couple (both Chinese – whose families may also follow certain rituals & traditions) from “negative vibes” Baka naman nahiya lang sila magsabi na HUWAG KA NALANG MAG-NINANG PLS! ;)) Inunahan ko na. Ayoko namang malasin sila ng dahil sa akin, maguumpisa pa lang sa buhay.
- In many countries, it is believed that the gap between the death of a loved one and a wedding should be one year at the least. This is to prevent negative vibrations caused by karmic connections between the bride/groom and the deceased.
- Mourners engaging in entertainment and social activities such as weddings, birthday parties, festive visiting are considered being disrespectful to the deceased parent.
We Chinese have so many customs, superstitions, and traditions that I had to be super careful & exercise extra caution not to step on toes, both theirs & ours. I did became a ninang recently in a baptism, but only because the family who invited me was not Chinese & they didn’t have the same beliefs. Also, we proceeded with Jena’s debut as we know Mama would have wanted us to. She loved her grandchildren to a fault that she would never have wanted to be the cause of any disruption in our lives.
Last month, the wedding took place, I attended of course, but as a regular guest. It was a beautiful wedding, as expected. <3
Dressed in our finest, we attended the lavish reception at the Fiesta Pavilion of Manila Hotel last November 18, 2017.
Dearest Adrielle and Benedict, I may not have walked the aisle with you, my name may no longer be in your list of godmothers, but in my heart, I am your Ninang. I will always be here for you, pray for you, and guide you as you walk your journey hand in hand as husband and wife.
Disclosure: The first half of the wedding photos above of the bride & groom, as well as the dance video after, do not belong to me. Credits to the photographer Ralph Lee. Video by The Rivera Sisters Choreography.
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