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Happy Anniversary!

Today you celebrate your 1st anniversary. How time flies! It was just a year ago that you met & fell in love. I know him well, so I knew it was serious then as it is serious now. Those little tell-tale signs, a mother knows too well. :)

Thank you for making him happy. Thank you for making him inspired. Thank you for making him want to be the best that he can be -for you.

Some may say that I should be sad -being second fiddle now. And yet, I am happy. Because I know someone else aside from me loves him deeply, someone else cares for him truly. How can I be sad? How can I be selfish when I see how much you make him happy?  <3

I too found my love at 16. I understand young love sweet love. He became my best friend, he is my soul mate. He is my life. And now, I am at a stage in my life where I can confidently give you these unsolicited advice from years & years of experience. I am teaching you both the shortcut to happiness & happy ever after.

 

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1.) Remember, there will always be a kontrabida. For what is a bida without one. And believe me, in life there will always be a kontrabida. So take it as a challenge. Don’t be disheartened, don’t be dismayed. These are just little road blocks. If you know how to get around it, you will get to the other side unscathed. In the end, it will ultimately be the two of you. Be each other’s ally.

2.) Learn to swallow your pride. I have discovered that one gains nothing from it. You will save yourselves a lot of heartache & tears with a little, singular word.. SORRY. And mean it. It doesn’t matter who’s wrong or who’s right. What’s important is the peace that you keep. Remember, one catches more flies with honey than vinegar.

3.) Love is hard work. Being in a relationship isn’t like lying on a bed of roses. There will be jealousies, there will be doubts. But if you have faith in each other, nothing & no one can separate you from your love. Vow to be true to each other for as long as you are willing, for as long as you are committed.

4.) Keep your silence. When we are hurt, our automatic response is to lash back & hurt the other. Don’t. Let your anger pass. Words cut deeper than physical wounds. What you say can never be unsaid. And it will always be remembered. Always let love prevail. Youth is a hard adversary, but learn to tame the tongue. Never speak in anger. If you must fight, be constructive. Learn from your mistakes & grow from it.

5.) Be loyal & faithful. Temptation will always be in front of you. If you know in your heart that he is yours & you are his, then forever is a state that you have to work on. Stay away from anything & anyone who can hurt & damage your relationship. A rotten apple to a hungry person will always be food. So learn when to stay away & who to avoid.
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6.) Listen to your parents, we mean well. You may think you know everything. You don’t. We are here to guide you. Pabalik na kami, papunta palang kayo. If you are in deep trouble or misunderstanding, never hesitate to ask us for help or advice. There will always be a choice. There will always be a way. Nothing in life is impossible if you put your heart & mind to it.

7.) You have a long way to go. Enjoy your youth. Love each other, but also live apart from each other. Give each other room to grow. You’ll be better for it. Being confined brings forth resentment, so give each other freedom to pursue individual interests and find friends not common to both of you. Leave room for little secrets, a little mystery is good for the heart & soul.

8.) Communication is the key. Always talk about your thoughts & feelings. Never second guess each other. You are not mind readers. If there is anything at all bothering both of you, lay it out & work on it. Never say “nothing” when there is obviously “something”. Like a wound it will fester & ultimately destroy what you have.

9.) Be independent. Don’t live in each other’s shadow. Pursue your dreams. Be each other’s cheerleader. Encourage & support each other with your goals & dreams.

10.) Learn to re-invent yourself & change (for the better) with the modern times. There will come a time that a couple will outgrow each other. People change. One will look back and wonder, “Who are you again? And why am I supposed to love you?” Make sure you don’t get left behind. Constantly improve yourselves & be interesting.

 

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You both still have a long way to go. One year down, many more to follow. If we made it to 28 & counting, I know that you can make it too! <3 True love is worth the work it entails. Keep inspiring each other, keep loving each other, and keep believing in each other.

Happy 1st anniversary. I wish you a lifetime of happy anniversaries. I love you both! :-*

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28 Comments

  • Reply Louise Fandino

    Aaaww.. you’re the sweetest mommy ever! I wish I could be like how you’re dealing with your son’s relationship (that’s for my two boys!) I TERRIBLY MISS YOUR SWEETNESS AND KINDNESS Jane!! Hope to see you soon! Love you heaps!! HUUUUUGS!!!!

    July 5, 2014 at 9:16 am
    • Reply sugargospice

      I’m sure you’ll be one super cool mommah too when the time comes Louise!! And I miss you loads huuhu!! :-*

      July 5, 2014 at 9:43 am
  • Reply Marilyn Astorga

    Words of advise from a well experienced Momma ,, that’ s a fact and key to succeed in any relationship. Happy kaya tayo kung happy din ang mga anak natin di ba,Miss Jane .Sana nga lang open ears sila sa atin dahil matamis ang unang pag ibig lol

    July 5, 2014 at 9:24 am
    • Reply sugargospice

      hahaha yes, we are here to guide them & pray that the road will always be smooth, We hurt more when they get hurt. ;)

      July 5, 2014 at 9:47 am
  • Reply gezel

    Gosh Jane where do you get these nuggets of wisdom so true, so real, good advice not only for the young but also for the young at heart. Been married for 12 years and still learning.

    July 5, 2014 at 10:17 pm
    • Reply sugargospice

      Hahaha from years & years of experience, Gezel. :) If only I knew then what I know now! :P Thank you!! :-*

      July 5, 2014 at 11:15 pm
  • Reply Emily Go

    You are, by far, the coolest mom I know. *Hugs* I wish to the highest heaven that I will be able to stop myself from being a suffocating mom who hovers over her kid too much. Sometimes I catch myself doing this. Kawawa naman si Morgan. Anyway, cheers to the cute couple!

    July 5, 2014 at 11:41 pm
    • Reply sugargospice

      I’m a hoverer kaya Emily hahaha!! Bamabawi nalang ako sa ibang bagay para hindi sila masuklam sa akin!! ;))

      July 5, 2014 at 11:44 pm
      • Reply Emily Go

        Hahahaha “masuklam” i like that word. Ndi Ms. Jane, I think they LOVE hanging out with you talaga. Most kids their age ndi na mahagilap. Youre doing such an awesome job. Mwa*

        July 6, 2014 at 12:05 am
        • Reply sugargospice

          Awwww thank you Emily!!! :-* You’re so sweet!! <3

          July 6, 2014 at 12:28 am
  • Reply Philip

    aww, to be 16!

    July 6, 2014 at 12:59 pm
    • Reply sugargospice

      I wanna be 16 again hehe!! Have a nice week ahead Philip!! :-*

      July 6, 2014 at 1:54 pm
  • Reply marvin

    Madam, kung ako lang babae, maganda at bata, “well well,” (said Maleficent) ako na manliligaw kay babyson mo! haha.
    Point # 7 is really good. Enjoy lang wag muna mag seryoso, pero sa studies dapat seryoso.
    ay btw nag bike ako kanina and napadaan ako sa street nyo, akala ko nasa labas ka :)

    July 6, 2014 at 1:46 pm
    • Reply sugargospice

      hahaha sana nag-doorbell ka lunch tayo with babyson!! ;)) kawawa naman ang girls ko si baby boy lang ang lagi in demand hehe!! See you soon!! :-*

      July 6, 2014 at 1:52 pm
  • Reply ellawella

    you are the sweetest in-law-to-be everrr! :) you are what we girls dream of as an in law..such a lucky lucky girl naman baby son’s girl! :) i wonder if you’ll be as supportive if Jena and Jana starts dating ehehehe :D

    July 7, 2014 at 7:20 am
    • Reply sugargospice

      si Ate pwede na. Si lovey kontrabida ako hahaha. Mabait ako basta makita ko mabait the other half at mahal talaga ang mga anak ko. :)

      July 7, 2014 at 7:56 am
      • Reply ellawella

        you really deserve the title “best mom’ / “coolest mom” “best supportive mom” :D

        July 7, 2014 at 12:07 pm
        • Reply sugargospice

          hindi naman hehe. good vibes lang. ;))

          July 7, 2014 at 12:30 pm
  • Reply The Food Scout

    This is so sweet Mommy Jane <3 <3

    July 7, 2014 at 4:16 pm
    • Reply sugargospice

      Thank you my beautiful baby girl!! :-*

      July 7, 2014 at 10:21 pm
  • Reply michconstantino

    Coolest mom everrr. <3

    July 8, 2014 at 10:07 am
    • Reply sugargospice

      thank you! :-*

      July 8, 2014 at 12:38 pm
  • Reply KassTastrophic

    Aylaveeettt!

    And this is the best, evah: “Love each other, but also live apart from each other. Give each other room to grow.”

    July 8, 2014 at 11:44 pm
    • Reply sugargospice

      Echos lang yan. Grabe nga kung maka-sumiksik ako kay Kap eh hahahahaha!! :P Para lang may time din si babyson sakin! ;)) JOKE!

      July 8, 2014 at 11:45 pm
  • Reply Didi

    Jane, you are really a wonderful mom. You support your kids all the way. And for dearest K – I’m sure it means a LOT, i mean a LOT. Ibang ang feeling, promise!! :)

    You are my PEG talaga sa motherhood!!!!!!!!!!

    Love, Didi

    July 9, 2014 at 11:41 am
    • Reply sugargospice

      thank you Didi!! <3 We love her coz she's such a great person. Plus she makes my boy happy. Live love laugh hehe! :-*

      July 9, 2014 at 11:50 am
  • Reply Sumi Go | The Purple Doll

    This is super sweet!!! You’re really the coolest, most awesomest (kailangan talaga may -est) mom I know!

    Sa little sister ko nga, I’m so overprotective that I sometimes become the kontrabida na. Lol!

    Anyway, thanks for sharing this post to us, your readers, too. These words of wisdom have really hit hard. And I know a lot of young (and even old) lovers will learn and realize a lot from this. :) Bookmarked your post, ’cause this is a perfect place to come back to should I need a refresher ‘pag inaway ako ni J. Haha!

    To your baby son and his lady, happy happy anniversary! <3

    July 14, 2014 at 1:17 am
    • Reply sugargospice

      Siguro coz boy kaya easier to be cool haha. Baka pag the 2 girls na iiyak nalang ako at maglupasay sa gilid baby Sumi. Parang ang hirap! :))

      July 14, 2014 at 8:24 am

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