When we bring a child into this world, our job isn’t merely to feed them & to keep them alive, but to nurture them, love them, protect them, and guide them. See to it that they grow up to be productive citizens living a life of purpose, armed with bravery, and clothed in righteousness. Giving birth is easier raising a child, believe me. I have 3, I know.
When I had my kids, my heart overflowed with such love that all I could think about was how I can shelter them & keep them away from harm & danger. I made their world too small because their safety was first & foremost my concern. I love them too much. I love them still. But I am choosing to let them stand on their own & trust God fully that He will protect them.
I found out that I can’t keep them cocooned forever because they have to expand their horizons & be ready for the real world sooner or later. And so, I let them go. Little by little. Not so much the girls because they are delicate flowers that need fostering in a world that takes advantage of the weaker sex. But my boy, I have learned to let go a bit so he can be the man God intended him to be. To learn to lead & be a good shepherd.
From a small school where I tried to keep him sheltered, I have seen him flourish & unfold when I finally let him go at 16 and enter a big school with endless possibilities. I saw how his character was formed, and his personality develop, gaining friends & amassing life experiences along the way that every normal teenager goes through.
Sure there were bumps here & there. Trials & errors that moulded him to be who he is today. But as his mother, I can only do so much. Pray that the foundation & character formation we helped build will see him through.
Last month, he finally graduated from high school. Ready to enter a whole new world of adulthood & independence. A universe that involves even more peril & uncertainty. I am thankful to his alma mater for helping him shape up & get ready for a bigger, tougher environment. In his 2 years there, he has learned so much about..
Out of all the life experiences, LOVE, I believe, teaches you the most. It is in love that you learn alongside the worst fear, the most pain, the hardest discouragement & the most profound hopelessness & helplessness. Love can make or break a person. And it is the one aspect I am most scared of the most as a mother. Because it is something I have no control of. His happiness is beyond my domination. It is in another person’s hand.
But along with fear & trepidation of the uncertainty of the future, I find joy in his happiness. The inspiration that makes him get up everyday ready to tackle the world at his feet. Love makes the world go round. I just hope & pray that it will never be a reason for his world to stop.
Pre-grad lunch with my boy
While at his graduation ceremony, my babyson who was seated parallel from me sent a text message as I clapped for the students with honors going up the stage with their parents. Unbeknownst to me, he was looking as I cheered along & must have thought I was jealous. Apologizing because after years of over-achieving is his old school & being a pack leader year after year, he claims to have “under-achieved” in his new one. He was disappointed that I don’t get to go up the stage this time because he became lax in his last 2 years of high school. As a mother, I am not one to push my kids to over-achieve & to over-compensate. Life is a journey. They should enjoy it without putting on too much strain on pressure & expectations. No, of course I don’t want them to be failures. But I also don’t want them constantly seeking for approval and not relishing life in the process -fleeting as it is. Them being them is enough. More than enough. And I am proudest being their mother. That’s the highest level of honor they can ever give me. <3 For the record, they are all above-average students. :)
Pre-grad lunch at Neil’s Kitchen, our homegrown favorite. <3 Paksiw na Salmon 695 php, T-Bone Tapa Steak 625 php, Crab Cake Torta with Aligue Pasta 495 php, Sinigang Noodle Soup 325 php, Fried Suman Mangga & Chocnut 250 php and Puto Bungbong with Buco Jelly and Toasted Coconut 250 php.
Congratulations to a highly talented lady, BEATRICE MARIE BUSTAMANTE (L) for writing the DLSZ 2015 graduation song HERE WE GO! \m/
I will most certainly miss this boy Ogs (left). <3 He has been like a brother to my Babyson & Lovey. Because he lived outside the village & there were rules to be followed regarding non-resident vehicles, he had to come in extra early & we would always find him in my babyson’s room and he would patiently wait for them to get ready. The 3 of them would then ride to school together. For a whole year, that has been their routine. Now, not seeing him in the wee hours seem so unnatural. We will miss you Ogs! Come visit please. :-*
From one & only one friend in his old school (okay 2-3 at the most) because of the low student population, I have seen right before my eyes how my babyson blossomed & gained so many friends in so short a time. Our house bustled with so many hang-outs & activities, and I was glad. This is what I wanted for my babyson, to HAVE a life. I didn’t want him stuck at home, I wanted him partying like any 17-year old should. With limitations of course. He is young but once. Soon enough, he will have responsibilities & face challenges that will require his mature attention. So I say, enjoy while he still can. There is time for the serious stuff later. You can never regain your youth. #YOLO
Post-grad Dinner Celebration
Time and again, I have inculcated in their minds that family will ALWAYS be there for them. In good times & in bad. Friendships may be genuine, but they are fleeting. Blood will always be blood. In the 2 years that he & my Lovey were together in their new school, I have seen how he learned to protect her & take care of her in their Ate‘s absence. At their former school, they always had their Ate to look up to & follow. But in Zobel, my Babyson had the sole responsibility of being the Kuya. And my how his character & self-confidence have grown & developed in those 2 short years. I am a proud mommah.
Post-grad celebratory dinner. <3 We were feelin’ some steak so we went to Midas Cafe for some surf & turf. <3
Hail to the Graduate of 2015! <3
My dearest Babyson. You are certainly not a baby anymore, but you will always be my son. No matter what heights you reach, no matter how old or how tall you get, no matter your status in life, You will always be MY SON. And I will always want what’s best for you. I will always love you, and I will always be here for you. Regardless.
Congratulations on your graduation. But this is just a start. You are only halfway towards your goals & your dreams. The future may seem far fetch, but be not anxious. Eyes on the prize, by God’s grace, you will get there soon enough. Just do your best, enjoy the ride.
And though you may not be Cinderella, you are certainly a handsome & gallant Prince Charming. So, my advice to you is also to Have Courage, and be Kind. Those are the words to live by. I love you anak, and I am ever so proud of you! Fly high! :-*
People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies. Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and sincere people may deceive you. Be honest and sincere anyway.
What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight. Create anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous. Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, will often be forgotten. Do good anyway.
Give the best you have, and it will never be enough. Give your best anyway.
In the final analysis, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.