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Dear Ms. Piggy (Gelato vs. Sorbetes)

 

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Italian, American, Indian, Arab, Chinese.. it all boils down to the same thing really, TRUE LOVE. We can’t gauge love based on the color of one’s skin. You may fall in love & marry a Filipino like your parents require, but if the commitment & dedication isn’t there, your marriage may fall in the dumps sooner or later, as in any other case & ethnic origin.

It’s not a question of race. It’s a question of how much you love one another, and how committed you are for the long haul.

Like I’ve said many times before -and speaking from my own experience, no parent would deem any man worthy of their princess. Be it a sheik or a tycoon. NO ONE will be good enough for their precious daughter. Your parents may fear that you are getting in over your head being in a relationship with someone foreign because they have different customs & traditions. We Filipinos have a different set of values & ways not common to others. Like filial love & clannishness. maybe your parents are worried that once you marry a foreigner, they will never see you again when you set off to live in another country.

Why not try sitting down with them & find out the basis of their fears & anxiousness. This is the only way to answer your question. Have a heart-to-heart talk with them & refuse to end the discussion until you find out the reason why. Does you current boyfriend have a bad reputation? Has he been married before? Does he seem like a player? An abuser? Parents want only the best for their children. If they show aggressive behavior then there might be an underlying reason why they are acting this way.

If you are sure their reasons are simply mababaw. Bili ka ng tig-isang lata ng magnolia at gelato. Serve to them & ask them which one they prefer. Sorbetes at Gelato, pareho lang yan! :P

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Dear readers, if there is anything you would like to add, feel free to do so on the comment section below. :)

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16 Comments

  • Reply Noel Q.

    Naloka ako sa title! Akala ko talaga yun ang problema ng letter sender mo, kung ano ang literal na mas masarap sa gelato o dirty ice cream, hahaha…

    Wala akong maidagdag sa payo mo, Jane. Tama lahat ng sinabi mo. =)

    Have a great weekend! Kami dito medyo busy dahil malapit nang mag-debut ang inaanak ko and they’re coming home from the US just for that.

    November 8, 2014 at 1:06 pm
    • Reply sugargospice

      wow ang saya saya!! kwentuhan mo ako ng detalye when we see each other! :-*

      November 8, 2014 at 1:21 pm
  • Reply candy pino

    Hi Mommy Jane,

    I truly believe that our parents are God’s mouth piece here on earth. They are our earthly angels- meant to protect us, shield us from any impending harm, love us unconditionally and direct our paths. At the very least, generally speaking.

    Honoring our parents is the only commandment with a promise – that we may live long (and well).

    When we are overly head over heels in live with someone, we disregard tell-tale signs of what could have been a direct warning of a looming relationship, marriage if that is even a consideration. Our hearts get in the way of our minds where only people who have the truest, sincerest and best intention can point that out to us.

    If you believe your parents are rational enough and have always have your happiness in the forefront, why not give it some thought? Sabi nga love is blind (corny, yes!) but i guess this applies really that when we are in love, we are blind to the realities and see only what our hearts want to see.

    just like mommy jane, i only had 1 boyfriend who became my husband. But, during those times, my principle was “if my parents don’t approve, I’ll really have to let go.” thankfully, they approved and I haven’t been so happy since.

    November 8, 2014 at 4:09 pm
    • Reply sugargospice

      Thank you so much for adding this piece of advice Candy! Wisdom comes with age so children really should listen to their parents. Sometimes may gut feeling talaga ang magulang.

      November 9, 2014 at 9:50 am
  • Reply gezel

    It’s not the race but what kind of a person you marry, been married to my british husband for 13 years and i could count in one hand the number of times we argue we never had a major fight (fingers crossed) coz we trust and understand each other. We compromise coming from different background and culture, open communication is a must for every relationship it’s not love that binds it, it’s trust, respect and communication regardless of race, ethnicity, or religion.

    November 8, 2014 at 9:22 pm
    • Reply sugargospice

      Correct. Soulmates transcends color & age. If you are meant to be, then you will be. #happyeverafter Thank you Gezel! :-*

      November 9, 2014 at 9:52 am
  • Reply KassTastrophic

    Delayed reaction ako dito, Mommy Jane but I want to reiterate that our parents only want the best for us. Also, they are afforded a different perspective since they are not directly involved in the relationship. That means, they have a great vantage point, to see what you do not.

    It is not limited to foreign lovers; kahit pa sa kapwa-Pilipino our parents will be protective.

    They are not always right but they always have a reason. Have that heart-to-heart talk with them. And remember that the mind is like a parachute, it only works when it is open. Try not to be too emotional and defensive. Try to see things from THEIR POV. Good luck :)

    November 10, 2014 at 9:06 am
    • Reply sugargospice

      I couldn’t have said it better kassie! Thank you! :-*

      November 10, 2014 at 11:41 am
  • Reply michymichymoo

    Medyo relate ako dito Mother. hahaha. There may be differences with the cultures but it really depends on the person, ke anong passport pa hawak nyan.

    November 10, 2014 at 10:42 am
    • Reply sugargospice

      hindi ba ikaw yung letter sender bbbear hahaha! Uuuuy may pinagdadaanan yung binata bear matin ah. Kwento tayong 3 pag nag-kita-kits! ;)

      November 10, 2014 at 11:45 am
      • Reply michymichymoo

        Nako, Mother, nagtatanong ako sa kanya at puro emoji ang natanggap ko. hahaha!

        November 10, 2014 at 1:15 pm
        • Reply sugargospice

          Kelangan ng cerveza para kumanta! ;))

          November 10, 2014 at 1:52 pm
  • Reply Leng

    WHATTATITLE! HAHAHA!

    This hits close to home, Momma J! Side-story: my mommy was always joking about my Filipino ex here. She always said “Sana naman your boyfriend is a bit more ‘improvement for our race'”. She kept mum when she realised how serious we were. When we broke up I dated a foreigner and she was all “Yahoo! I’ll have blond grandchildren!” When we found out how much of a douchebag he was, she was first to call him to say “Keep off my daughter or I will have you deported from the UK!”

    You’re right, parents will always be overly-protective of their spawns, no matter the race, the face, or the bank account. I’m sure they mean well, it’s just a matter of making them understand how you feel when you are with this person, and more importantly proving to them – as much as to yourself – that this person deserves you too. :)

    November 10, 2014 at 11:12 pm
    • Reply sugargospice

      hahaha ganyan yata talaga all moms Leng. :)) All daughters deserve the best. Unfortunately in our eyes as moms, walang “The Best” when it comes to choosing the right one. Laging may pintas kasi nga perfect in our eyes ang mga anak! Guilty right here hahaha!

      November 11, 2014 at 9:23 am
  • Reply marian

    I think the letter-sender would be more receptive to the opinions of her parents if they (parents) have shown that they also tried to be more open-minded about the relationship. She mentioned her parents being rude to him and ignoring him when he visits her at home. This should have been a good chance to get to know the Italian boyfriend better, setting aside their biases. The behavior is only putting their daughter on the defensive.

    But since the daughter cannot control the behavior of her parents, she should just try to reach out to them. And if the boyfriend is really serious about the relationship, he should also exert some effort to disprove the parents’ opinions about him.

    November 11, 2014 at 8:22 am
    • Reply sugargospice

      Thank you Marian for this other point of view. Parents may know best MOST of the time. Pero may mga instances din na minsan, tama ang anak. :) There should be an open line of communication & dapat noth parties agreeable to compromise.

      November 11, 2014 at 9:20 am

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