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5 Languages of Love

I finished reading THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES by Gary Chapman. More often than not, we miscommunicate because we don’t know each other’s love language. So by knowing what it is our better other half silently craves for, we can communicate with one another much better. I found this book really insightful & would strongly recommend for you to read as well when you have the time. :)

The 5 Love Languages
What if you could say or do just the right thing guaranteed to make that special someone feel loved? The secret is learning the right love language! Millions of couples have learned the simple way to express their feelings and bring joy back into marriage: The 5 Love Languages, Dr. Gary Chapman’s New York Times bestseller!

What are the 5 Love Languages according to Dr. Chapman?

1.) Words of Affirmation. Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important – hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten. Kind, encouraging, and positive words are truly life-giving.
2.) Quality Time. In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there – with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby – makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful. Quality time also means sharing quality conversation and quality activities.
3.) Receiving Gifts. Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous – so would the absence of everyday gestures. Gifts are visual representations of love and are treasured greatly.
4.) Acts of Service. Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter. Finding ways to serve speaks volumes to the recipient of these acts.
5.) Physical Touch. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face – they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive. Physical touch fosters a sense of security and belonging in any relationship.
I took a profile test (provided online, CLICK HERE) which gave me a thorough analysis of my emotional communication preference. It singled out my primary love language, what it means, and how I can use it to connect with my loved ones with intimacy and fulfillment.

LOVE LANGUAGE PROFILE FOR WIVES



Funny. I got a different language of love result as a daughter. My top need was quality time. I guess I needed that from my parents the most.

7-Words of Affirmation
9-Quality Time
3-Receiving Gifts
5-Acts of Service
6-Physical Touch
I also forced my Kap to take this 30-question quiz. He took a while, but he finally finished it & here’s the surprising result. This test is not 100% accurate but it gives a perspective of how things are more or less..
Ang kawawa kong asawa. He’s been craving pala quality time with me all this while, tapos puro mga bata ang inaasikaso ko lagi. We will have more QTs starting tonight. Masusuka sya sa kaka-bonding naming dalawa! ;))
I need to balance being a wife & mother. Sometimes, I am so consumed with my kids’ needs that I fail to see my husband’s needs as well. Feel ko ok lang sya sa tabi. I vow to remedy that situation asap!

There are 2 other books written by Dr. Gary Chapman specifically for each age group of your child. My kids are in different stages of their lives. One is an adult, one is a teen, and one is a tween. And they have different needs & communication styles, so I found these as insightful as well in learning how I should talk to them. Kids reaching puberty is always hard on the parents -no matter what they do or say, their kids resent them & clam up, keeping secrets most of the time and challenged to rebel & do wild things. I’ve heard & read so many horror stories, and I’ve acted out myself as a teenager that I’m just so happy & thankful that I’ve been blessed with really nice kids that I didn’t have to go through that phase.. I would have gone bonkers! @_@

The Love Language Profile for Teenagers is designed to give you a thorough analysis of your teenager’s emotional communication preference. It will single out their primary love language, what it means, and how you can use it to better understand them during this stage of their life. Invite them to take the assessment and share their results with you. Not only will you show them that you care, but that you are also striving to be a better parent.
So many parents wonder about their child’s love language, and admittedly, determining the love language of a young child requires some educated guesswork. Why? Because young children can’t yet verbalize their love language. For children ages 5 to 8 years old.
I asked my kids to answer the online test as honestly as they can, and these are the results I got from each of them..

LOVE LANGUAGE PROFILE FOR TEENAGERS

Your Love Language Personal Profile

Your Scores

  • Words of Affirmation
  • Quality Time
  • Receiving Gifts
  • Acts of Service
  • Physical Touch

Words of Affirmation makes her day. She also loves being pampered & surprised. Gifts make her feel valued, special, and loved.

Ate, you are not only beautiful in & out, but smart & intelligent as well. That’s the best combination, because you have power in your hands. Added to that is heart, and you have the perfect trifecta. You have also been blessed with an amazing talent & you create magnificent things that I am always in awe of how special you are. I know you will succeed in life, because of who you are. I am so very proud of the lady that you have become. Always remember that, I love you! Thank you for going easy on me, babe! <3

Your Love Language Personal Profile

Your Scores

  • Words of Affirmation
  • Quality Time
  • Receiving Gifts
  • Acts of Service
  • Physical Touch

Babyson, we have the same love language. I’m glad, because I love giving you bear hugs & sloppy kisses. I don’t think I’ll ever get tired of kissing your GO-wapo face, even when you’re old & gray na, you’ll always be my one & only babyson. I know you’re trying to get out from mommy’s skirt & be on your own. In time, you will be. But for now, let me cherish you a little bit more because time flies so fast. Pretty soon you’ll have a girlfriend & I won’t be the top girl in your life anymore. I love you so very much that my heart pinches whenever a steal a glance your way, seeing the smart, confident, self-assured young man you are becoming. Dad & I must have a done a pretty good job huh, lels! ;)

Your Love Language Personal Profile
Oh my baby girl! <3 My bunso, the sunshine of my life. Seeing you always ALWAYS puts a smile on my face. You have shown & proven to me that you are indeed strong. Now I know that I don’t have to worry as much because you are very capable, much more than I thought. I’d like to think that you need mommy, but I’m so happy to know that left on your own, you can still conquer the world & live life with your head held up high. You are so sweet & charming, you are the sugar in my life. Thank you for being mommy’s shadow, and for WANTING to spend so much time with me. I hope this won’t change as you grow older, and that I’ll also be your bestest friend ever. Remember, you can always come to me & say what’s in your heart without fear. I will always understand & we will ALWAYS find a way. I’m just so very proud of you my baby, and whatever happens, you will never ever disappoint mommy. <3

Pepper of booketria_ has so graciously given me an e-book version of 5 Languages of Love. I’m still awaiting the 2 other titles so I can share them with you. If you want a copy, just indicate your email address in the comments section below & I’ll send it to you as soon as I can (probably by next week so I can try & get all 3 ebooks). :) For your ebook needs (she does special requests!), you may contact Pepper Santos at..

 
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